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Tuesday, November 19, 2024
A Clean Sweep
Saturday, November 16, 2024
It Was the 2nd Time I Found Meth on Him
Our family at Disney while the ex was away getting his drugs. |
Same Disney trip, this time he was passed out in the room & won't get up to join us exploring the resort |
Wednesday, November 13, 2024
No one said it would be easy
Well, I let my ex-father-in-law's words get in my head.
He told me I needed to stop acting better than everyone else, that I was bossy and judgemental.
And I believe him, or at least let his words run my blogging and writing world for far too long.
So I'm back.
I'm going to be sharing the struggle I am currently in and how good and marvelous and compassionate and caring God is.
I'm divorced.
I knew my ex was a drug addict for a long time. That's how we connected actually, over him driving me to a pit (that's a gravel pit where rural kids go get drunk, have a bonfire and do things we will not say) to pick up my 4 pack of Mich Lite in a long-neck bottle. Yeah don't ask me how or why I decided that when I was gonna drink beer, which I hate, it would be Michelob lite in a long neck bottle; any whozel a party had been broken up by the cops and I had to flee leaving that said beverage behind, but I'm thrifty and knew I needed it. So that was hang out #1 with my ex and hangout #2 consisted of us getting high, off mary jane, behind an old farmhouse my parents had purchased for the land.
It would be July 9, 2019 that it was confirmed that my husband (at the time) was truly a drug addict when I found his pill vile with crystal meth in it. This was 3 weeks before my last chemotherapy treatment for breast cancer.
He denied then admitted it was indeed his.
Some days I think I should have kicked him out but I wanted to stay. I loved him and a Christian women I dearly wanted God to heal him, that he would put down the drugs and pick up a love for his family.
Why do we stay so long?
I've spoken with other women who knew something was up in their marriage but stayed. Cheating. Drugs. Gambling. You name it, so many women stick around for the sake of making it work, for the sake of a change coming. For me, it never did.
So as I step back into blogging I will be sharing my story.
Divorce gave me freedom, it gave me peace, it gave me sleep; it also gave me uncertainty and fear. I have many things to put down on paper.
Many things to share that I haven't be able to fear of repercusions in divorce court. I am not innocent in this mess of a movie marriage I was in for almost 28 years.
I did things I knew were wrong, I allowed things I knew were wrong.
So why ot share the story.
Share the journey that took me from a lost, scared 18 year old to here today a single mom trying to honor God with her life and make a difference for His Kingdom.
Thanks for being here.
xoxo
-Michelle
Sunday, November 27, 2016
Fight the Good Fight Michelle
I don't really know what I am doing, so how can I properly share it with you all.
I am cancer free.
I mean no doctor has said it, but I had that pesky tumor removed on April 27th and since then the cancer has been gone.
It's the aftermath that I did not expect.
The aftermath of living with choices, new lifestyles, a changed social life.
My main goal has been to make my body an environment that is not encouraging cancer growth.
Eat lots of raw.
Juice lots.
Budwig protocol,
essiac tea.
Keep my body alkaline and not acidic.
Only drink water.
Not drink coffee.
Ugh.
It can be a lot.
No dairy.
No meat.
Watch the soy, not much if any.
No legumes.
No sugar.
ugh.
I find I just don't want to eat.
The prepping.
The prepping.
The prepping.
The food battle was one I didn't see coming and probably my biggest struggle.
It is a lot.
My peace begins to slip away...
it slips into the past
I didn't expect this battle in my mind over the past.
I ate too many sweets,
baked too much,
ate out too much,
too much ice cream
and milk
and cereal.
Oh how I loved to drink cows milk, and ceral, I loved cereal. Not anymore.
Then my mind loops to my boys.
I realize I fed all that to my boys.
My grown boys.
For years I did my best at what I knew to feed them.
Was I wrong all those years?
Then I got educated.
What if my lack of knowledge caused health issues with my kids.
Did I fail them?
I did my best.
I didn't know what I know now.
I can't think on the past, it changes nothing; it does no good.
Oh crap!
I just ate a cake pop,
and a piece of pecan pie,
and turkey,
and ... and...
And then after I work through the what I fed my boys saga, I get angry that no one was there to guide me.
Invest in me.
In a sense I was thrown to the wolves.
18, then 21.
Married with two kids. College drop out trying to doing the best for my family.
I always thought I did good, some days I wondered, no some days I convince myself I did them wrong.
Oh this battle in my head.
I call it out for what it is- all lies.
Lies to bring me down. Sadden my spirit. Focus my thoughts on the past.
But, lies.
Lies I know, but that doesn't soften their blow, when the hits come my way.
Then I think about the future... the forever.
Forever I will be a cancer survivor.
Forever I will think about what I put into my mouth, or don't.
Forever...
So nothing profound.
Nothing to educate you on healthy living.
Nothing because I have nothing much to give these days.
Again, I lift my head and trust in my God who created me and has a plan for me,
a good plan.
May that knowledge,
that truth be enough to sustain me this moment.
11/27/16
-Michelle